My first boys youth group was tonight and it went amazingly well! We had 5 boys aged 9-11 years and they are a great bunch. It was important right off the bat to ensure we made a differentiation between what we intended to do and that – we aren’t school! Everyone felt a sense of relief.
Research shows that most boys who are in a problem situation at school are considered “Alpha” personalities. We saw these in full force tonight, some more than others. One mom was afraid to tell me her son had been diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD)...bring it on I thought, no worries here! Yes there may be some challenges but I believe that for this group to truly be successful and to honour these little guys we need to ensure they and their needs are being met. If a child is displaying bouts of defiance (at 11 years old) then something in his world isn’t working for him. Will we get to the bottom of it in 10 short weeks? Not likely but in the meantime we can plant some seeds about what it feels like to be respected and treated fairly and see where that gets us.
I am in awe of my abilities to throw this together and actually pull it off tonight. Ideally we want the group to be managing itself as the weeks move forward and we saw this towards the end of the 1 ½ hours we were there. I gave my co-facilitator the thumbs up when another little one pointed to some pictures of the emoticons displaying emotions about how he felt today – this is exactly what this group is for!
I am beyond excited as to where this group is headed…stay tuned next week for week 2 updates.
Boys Need to Feel.
